I believe God is in everyone, and to know God, we must find the divine within ourselves. Jesus said "The kingdom of heaven is within you." (Luke 17:21) John calls it light. Relating to each other, and walking in light IS our spiritual act of worship AND it is the means of our salvation. Walking imperfectly in the light of the blood and flesh of another, and yet recognizing the divinity within each of us, cleanses us from our toxic shame and guilt and the hell we create for ourselves on our own.
To love God is to Love yourself. That is not an invitation to narcissism - it is an invitation to care enough about yourself to better yourself, to care for yourself, to feed your soul, to nourish your body, and train your mind. AND then you must love your neighbor AS yourself
THIS is following Jesus, forget the doctrine and tradition, there is no other way.
I never would have learned any of this had it not been for someone who met me where I was.